When A Lover Doesn’t Apporve Of Tattoos

October 10, 2008 at 3:42 pm (tattoo) (, , , , , , , , , )

I thought today would be as good of a day as any to tackle this subject. If you are a regular here and I hope you are. You will know that I love tattoos and would absolutely love to get another one but my husband isn’t a real big fan of them so I haven’t gotten any more. So this leads me wanting to know would you do the same thing if your husband/wife or girlfriend/boyfriend felt the same way?

I know there maybe people out there that feel that it is their body and they should be able to do whatever they want to it and I agree with that. But when you truly love someone and really respect them you sacrifice things that you want because of them. However, there is one thing that I don’t quit understand about my hubby not wanting me to get another tattoo. The reason is because he actually paid for my second tattoo that I got on my 21st birthday. He claims that it is different because we were not married then. But I feel it is the same thing, I mean I was his girlfriend at the time.

So what do all of you out there in tattoo land have to say about this? Also have you experienced the same thing with your loved one? Lastly, would you go out and get a tattoo even though you knew that your lover did not approve of it? I know I would never be able to do that because I wouldn’t want to disappoint my husband. But if he gave me the ok, then yes I would get another one in a heart beat.

Your Tattoo Friend

Ashley

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5 Comments

  1. Carrie Burrows said,

    Anyone who does not accept me the way that I am can hit the road.

  2. Tara @ Tattoo Momma said,

    Ashley,
    Making a sacrifice in a relationship goes both ways. You say you should sacrifice what you want to make him happy, but why can he not make a sacrifice to allow you to have something you want?

    I personally would never allow my husband to tell me what I could and could not do. As an adult I should be able to do as I please, and if he could not accept that. he would have to hit the road.

    Just my opinion.

  3. delaney55 said,

    I think it depends on why they are so against you having any more tattoos. Did you have your tats when you met him or afterward. I think if someone loves you and you have tattoos then I would be wondering why they would be opposed to more tats unless they were afraid that you might go overboard. They should not love you any less if you got more ink since it doesn’t change who you are. Maybe if you were to decide on your ink together it might make a difference. If this was a question of your being inked for the first time and he doesn’t like them than I can see why it would be an issue but since you are already inked it shouldn’t matter as long as you don’t get something somewhere he would hate.

    I think you need to delve more into why he doesn’t want you to do it. Is it because he is afraid of what others may think about his wife because you are inked? Does he hate all things about tattoos or just not on you, and if so, why since you have ink?

    Ultimately it is your body, your choice after knowing his reasons and if you want to live by his choices for you or not. It is your marriage and no one can chose for you.

  4. Heather said,

    Ashley~

    I totally know what you are talking about! That of course is how i found your blog cause i was doing a random google search for information on this topic. I am currently struggling with the same issue- i had a tattoo already when me and my hubby met and he never said anything negative about it . He has known for the last 8 years i have wanted just one more- he even went to tattoo places with me before we were married and now we have been married for a couple years and for the past few months i have been trying to put one together and he never said anything. Now i made one that i totally love and was going to go get it in a few weeks and now he doesn’t want me to get one at all. It is not like he says “no” he just gets that disappointed look and i think that is even worse. He just says he loves my hips ( i want a small tree on my right hip) and thinks i am so sexy without it. I told him that i am getting it anyway cause it is my body but deep inside i am conflicted and i hate it! So i really don’t have any advice for you cause sweetie we are floating down a similar boat. I just don’t know what to do i am very independent and the more he shows that he doesn’t want me to get one the more i want one 😉 Good luck babe!

  5. Christian said,

    My ex Would say she was in love with me. Once i got tattoos she started to ahte me woudltn evne let me touch her. I don’t know what was gogin on. I know you stop doing stuff because people advise agianst it. Im still who i was ebfore them. I didnt cvhange a little ink on my arms chest back. I feel abd ig ot em cause i cant be with her but i got to move on. I mean you need to not worry about the tattoos move on there is life we live it. I know its nto for eveyroen but when you love someone and they get tattoos can you dare even say i don’t love you no more or can’t be with you cause of that. IS that really a breaking point.

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